“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.” ― Joseph Campbell
By: Dr. Rita Louise
Bliss comes in all shapes and sizes. What brings joy into your life may be completely different from what provides others a sense of satisfaction. Experiencing bliss is not about having a new car, a fancy house or the latest gadget on the market. It is about feeling happy and content in the things you do or the life you lead.
Average Americans work forty or more hours per week. The jobs we have, instead of inspiring us and leaving us with a sense of fulfillment, often drain us of our energy, our lives. We find ourselves working “for the man” in a position we often would not wish on our worst enemy. Instead of waking up enthusiastic and ready to start a new day, we find it hard to get out of bed, dreading what the day will hold. Overwork, office politics or the repetitive nature of our employment do little to support a blissful state of mind.
Many of us are not afforded the luxury of selecting the ideal career for ourselves. Education, location or the availability of potential jobs often curtail our ability to finding gainful employment in a field that fires the passion of our spirits. We end up settling for what is available and not what we want. Bills and other life responsibilities keep us trapped hoping for more and settling for less.
Today, we live in a pay as you play society. If you do not have the money to pay, you cannot get on the ride or join the team. Finding and experiencing bliss in your life is not about money – although having some money does help. It is not about climbing to the top of a mountain to meditate, although for some it may be. It is about doing something you love, something that brings a smile to your face or peace to your soul.
The challenge to finding your bliss is discovering what makes you tick. For some it may be one thing, a singular purpose that brings excitement and purpose into their lives. For others it may be a variety of different things each of which supply a small piece of delight into their otherwise dreary lives.
When asked, most people do not know what they want to do with their lives. We long to answer the question” What am I going to be when I grow up?” and wait fervently for a divine insight but find ourselves sitting in mute silence. It is not that we do not want to know, but more likely than not, we were never asked. If we were, we were probably dissuaded from our original ideas and choices and were cajoled into a job, career or profession we were not interested in. The statement “It is not practical” is many times tied to these acts of manipulation. Who wants to be a starving artist, and out of work actor or a deadbeat musician when you can have a good paying job as an accountant or engineer?
Another factor that can influence our ability to finding bliss is when we are not exposed to the opportunities that life holds. Perhaps jumping out of an airplane would bring you the excitement you crave. You would never know if you have never tried it. (I am not suggesting that everyone should attempt skydiving, but for some this IS what floats his or her boats.) We may find bliss when we open ourselves up to new possibilities, to adventures and experiences big and small. There are so many things that can be tried the sky is the limit. What works for one person may not resonate with you. It is not about them, it is about you exploring yourself, your likes and dislikes. You may uncover something you relish in your fist try or it may be your hundredth. You might even find it by trying new things. Investigating a variety of diverse ideas may help you to realize your bliss bring you the satisfaction you have been looking for.
You do not have to quit your job in order to find bliss. In what might be considered the most satisfying and lucrative careers there are always difficulties. In everything we do there are always tasks and responsibility that one would consider less than blissful. Bliss can be found in the simplest things we do, the silliest things we try or the most out there things we experience. Once bliss starts to emerge it, cannot help but filter through into the regular and more mundane aspects of our lives.
8 Simple Ideas That May Help You Find Bliss
Work on yourself.
Sometimes we are so wrapped up in our jobs, our careers or taking care of everyone else that we forget about ourselves. Perhaps you will find bliss when you stop solving the problems of the world and begin taking care of yourself. Give yourself permission to go to the gym, see a movie or visit a friend. Maybe your bliss can be found in a hot bath or a good book. Taking care of ourselves can be one of the most challenging things to do. We often allow life to distract us from our needs and ourselves. We, that inner part of ourselves, often end up falling by the wayside. If it is hard for you to find some “me” time, write it on your calendar, put it on a post it note and schedule it in. Identify a day and time when you are going to give to yourself. Envision how much fun it will be going on a hot date – with yourself!
Take a class.
Sometimes when we are unsure of what we want to do taking a class might help to get your creative juices flowing. Whether at your local community college or one that you find online, try it! You might discover that you have a knack for cake decorating, water painting, computer programming, dancing or writing.
Attend a Meet-up group.
Meetup groups have popped up across the country. They can be found in large urban areas and smaller communities. Many are free, or a very low cost, to attend and the possibilities are endless. There are Meetup groups that focus on self-improvement, spirituality and health and healing. There are Meetup groups for the politically minded, for exploring religious ideas and ones for individuals who are just looking for some stimulating conversation. There are even Meetup groups for singles!
Explore the great outdoors.
Go camping. Take a walk in a park. Climb to the top of a mountain. Learn to identify the birds you see, the plants you encounter. Lie out on the grass and watch the clouds go by. Enjoy the solace of a star filled night. You might find yourself invigorated and lusting for life after spending some time in the great outdoors.
Explore your kitchen.
Have you ever baked a loaf of bread, made cookies from scratch or tried a recipe that sounds tasty and inviting? Our kitchens can hold many unseen wonders that have been lost to prepackaged convience foods. Handcrafted meals always cost less to prepare than their mass-produced counterparts. They are healthier for you and always taste better. You might discover that cooking up a three-course meal for a group of friends or your family is fun and perks up your appetite for life.
Plant an herb or vegetable garden.
Planting a garden, be it herbs or your favorite vegetables can be rewarding and satisfying. As your plants grow and mature it will be a constant reminder of the mysteries and wonders of the world. You might say, “But I do not have a back yard to plant them in”. Anyone can start a garden in a brightly lit window or in pots on a patio. Imagine how amazing it would be to eat a home grown, organic tomato or season your meal with a bit of basil or cilantro you grew. There are also an increasing number of community gardens, where you can rent a plot of land, and grow your favorite delectable delights.
Start a spiritual practice.
Have you always wanted to begin meditating, learn tai chi or yoga? Maybe you will find bliss there. If you live in a rural community there are hundreds if not thousands of books and CD’s available online which can help get you started. In addition, an overwhelming amount of free information online can answer your questions, provide you with some insights or point you in the right direction. Why do you hesitate, Grasshopper?
Volunteer your time.
You might discover that you will find bliss assisting others. Countless organizations are on the lookout for good dependable help. The immeasurable number of people that you will be helping even if you only volunteered a few hours a week could be staggering. Help build a house, cook in a soup kitchen or lend an ear on a support line. Each of these can be rewarding.
It does not matter what you do as you look to find your bliss. The journey keeps it fresh and exciting. If water painting is not for you, explore something else. Give yourself the chance to learn and grow especially if you are trying something new. We all cannot be Michelangelo or de Vinci but with a little time and effort, you very well may be.
Sometime we find bliss in some of the weirdest places, in areas that we did not know existed or would never have imagined trying. Pay attention to strange synchronicities that pop up in your life or any intuitive insights you may have. These will often appear when you least expect it and can help guide you to the perfect place. If where you are being lead seems outlandish do not knock it. Try it. Your bliss might be waiting for you there.
By Dr. Rita Louise
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