Create Healthy Relationships By Healing Childhood Trauma
When people enter into a new relationship, they do not go looking for the rotten apple at the bottom of the barrel. However, countless individuals repeatedly find themselves in these hurtful situations and do not understand why.
A recent Facebook survey of people who self-identify as being empathic revealed a startling insight. Over 80% of the 1,300 respondents disclosed they had suffered from some form of abuse or neglect during their childhood. Organizations, such as the American Psychiatric Association, have also identified early childhood trauma as the cause for the development of severe narcissist tendencies.
An interesting dynamic often develops between the loving, compassionate, and often selfless empaths and those willing to take from them, the self-serving narcissists. Both look to heal their inner wounds in the arms of the other.
The Dysfunctional Dance Of The Empath And Narcissist takes an in-depth look at the unconscious patterns that keep individuals trapped in cycles of abusive relationships. It endeavors to raise people’s awareness to the ingrained programming going on deep inside and help the reader understand how they keep getting into these situations in the first place.
Regardless of what happened to a person when they were young, they have the power to redefine themselves and their life. It is possible to break free of these destructive, negative patterns and finally experience the loving, healthy relationship they have always desired.
The Dysfunctional Dance Of The Empath And Narcissist Reviews
You are not alone
The Dysfunctional Dance of the Empath and the Narcissist by Dr. Rita Louise is an invaluable insight into the very core of our souls. By using her own personal experiences, she lets the reader know they are not alone, that this is not just another book full of technical jargon. It is real and raw. It makes the reader look deep inside themselves and offers encouragement that the cycle of abuse can end as we learn to heal ourselves from within. While my own cycle had ended, it gave me the tools I needed to understand how and why we make the life choices that we do. I can honestly say that I wish someone had written this book years ago and that if I could, I would make sure every household had a copy of this book.
It is a rip-the-bandaid-off read
I had bought this book when it first came out and was sitting in my kindle, collecting static electricity or spider webs. I avoid it! I knew I needed to dive into my endless crappy relationships with narcissistic people, and it wasn’t til how I recognized people around me when in lockdown that I needed to take back control of my life. The book is a relatively easy read and not OTT technical. However, be prepared to face the mirror. The author has identified various abuses that I would not have understood had I not read this book. Although it is a rip-the-bandaid-off read, the author humor and softness and her ability to give perspective to the reader made me think—hey I’m okay! I highly recommend this book, not just to folks who had a history of being abused but to anyone wanting to understand different personality types in social situations.
Say “No” to the Narcissist and “Yes” to Yourself!
Rita Louise’s new book is brutally honest about her own path from abused child to accomplished healer. She shares why those of us who are “sensitive” or empathic are often victimized by narcissists and offers techniques she used herself to heal, understand and find self-worth.
This is a handbook on how to end the “dysfunctional dance” and choose self-worth, self-love and happiness!
Are you an empath who attracts the wrong kind?
When I sat down to read this book, it really brought my attention to the forefront of where I am in my life path. This book is written with compassion, and real ways to look at your life. Just knowing her story and what her life was like, you know that you are not alone. Easy to read, brings up all the emotions, stuff that you need to heal, you got it here. Her wit and wisdom makes it an easy read, but one that helps you heal!! I started this book as soon as it came out and I am still processing through my life! Thank you Rita, this is a god send!
Recommending on many levels
At the very beginning I thought it was a memoir because the author began with relating her own background of abuse. I realized, however, this was merely an introduction regarding the motivation behind the writing of the book.
I wasn’t really sure if this was a book I wanted to read at this point in my life, feeling I didn’t want to revisit what was my past, or hopefully my past. But I gleaned new insights into the many intersections of personalities, archetypes, and varying degrees of abusive patterns I think most find themselves dealing with at some point in life. I found myself highlighting a lot of passages, the sign of a good book for me.
About two-thirds of the way in, as an author of fiction, I found a dual purpose in the book—the perfect source for identifying character flaws to incorporate into my fictional characters.
The author doesn’t just describe the many traits that help to determine a particular type, she also gives coping and healing mechanisms.
I think the underlying message is forgiveness and acceptance.
Learn to love yourself again
If you are a person such as myself that has been abused (mentally). This book is an education and a means to help you on a path. It allows you to work through and identify areas that you may not know you are having.
Mixing her vast knowledge of science/spiritual/history/ancient myth into a weave of getting at your own truth if you allow that knowledge in. If you are willing to open that area of your soul. A portion of the book is referencing relationship as a couple, I also urge you to look at this also in relationships that you have with others, parents, siblings, coworkers, friends. These can be just as debilitating as a relation with a lover or partner. I am right there with you, my parents, siblings, and friends.
Through the use of this book/workbook, you can find your inner guidance, your means to become happier healthy and whole within yourself. Through the later part of the book gives a wonderful insight into how you can choose to be a happier/healthier person. You may want to revisit these ideas/thoughts throughout your life as you find new and deeper meaning and ways to become happier/healthier.
While this is a heavy subject matter Dr. Rita Louise crafts a book that deals with the subject matter with a light-hearted twist. So why not give it a go.
Dr Rita Louise once again shows her amazing insight!
This highly intuitive gal has done it again! Only a person who has survived the trauma of a toxic narcissistic relationship can recognize and explain the mechanics of such a relationship and give clues and answers to recovery. This book should be at the top of the list for every person who is fighting for control of their lives.
Wow, just wow!
I was in an abusive relationship in my past and I related to this book wholeheartedly. It hit super close to home with me especially on how a narcissist and an empath gets together, it truly is a dance!I never realized the connection in my upbringing but this book brought it to the forefront. It became more tangible by giving mental tools to understand my past with some clever takeaway skills for my future relationships. Thank you Rita for creating such an eye-opening experience!
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