Are You Happy In Your Relationship Or Just Comfortable?

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Are you happy in your relationship or just comfortable?  This is a question that we all ponder as time goes on and the thrill and excitement we first felt when we met someone begins to dim.  We all want to love and be loved.  We grow up being told about the ‘happily ever after’ we will experience once we find Mr. Or Mrs. Right.  Once we say “I do”, however, it often seems as if there is nothing more to strive for or to look forward to.  We have achieved our objective.  We have moved in together or gotten married and wonder, now what? Read more

Reactive Abuse: A Narcissist’s Favorite Cat & Mouse Game

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When someone is experiencing reactive abuse they are responding in a significant way to the toxic behavior they repeatedly experience from another.  The abuse may be physical or psychological in nature.  The over the top reaction often occurs when that abuser instigates some kind of controlling mind game, and constantly provokes their victim until they react.  Read more

Healing Your Inner Child: How To Do Inner Child Work

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Accessing our wounded inner child is one way in which we can find the root cause for many of the emotional issues we experience as adults. Through it, we can learn to tap into the emotions, beliefs and negative experiences that we have over the years learned to suppress. It allows us to bring these feelings and emotions into our conscious mind so that they can be addressed. This self-discovery work allows us to shine the light on our inner world and affords us the opportunity to restore our unique and authentic nature. Through it, we can heal. Read more

Trauma, Wounding And The Inner Child

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We can all act childish every now and then especially when we our world is challenged. While we may appear to be adults on the outside, when situations occur, that trigger one of our scripts, our wounded “inner child”, can appear and take over the show. This unconscious part of ourselves can at times covertly control our demeanor. In some situations this part of ourselves can unknowingly run our lives. Read more

How to Recharge Your Life By Healing Your Chronic Stress

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We experience stress when we lose our jobs, or do not having enough money to buy food or pay our bills. Anything that elicits fear within us can contribute to this unspoken physical and emotional tizzy and strain our adrenal reserves. This state is amplified for trauma survivors who find themselves trapped in cycles of worry or rumination or whose stress response is always turned on. Read more

Mindfulness: Find Inner Peace By Healing Out Of Control Thoughts

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By being mindful of your thoughts, especially your intrusive ones, you can begin to calm down what has been flared up and hopefully let go of the rest. They can be easier to control and even prevented if you can catch them early on instead of waiting until you are in the midst of a full blown meltdown. One way of supporting our ability to ‘be’ is through mindfulness techniques and meditation. Some people suggest that self-improvement techniques such as meditation or mindfulness are hard or even exhausting. What is even more taxing on your body and soul is the underlying stress negative thoughts and emotions can have. Read more